C&C met Tessa for the first time yesterday at Dr Ohmstede home during the playgroup session (besides Dr. Ohmstede's DD, Eleanor). Baby Tessa is almost 1 year old and she is actually an adopted baby girl from China. Liz's sister managed to finalize the adoption paperworks and travelled to China to bring her back to the States end of last year. I am so proud of her as she has already 3 children on her own and decided to add Tessa into her family. It seems like nowadays, adoption is an open topic to everyone at least in the developed countries. As far as I know, many infertile couples decided to adopt when they failed to have children after years of trying. But since yesterday, I was half wrong...you don't have to be infertile to adopt.
I have two family members that have gone through the adoption process. Not those kind of international adoption (from SKorea, China, Japan, Vietnam). It is just through relative. In a way, the kids are still very close to their biological mother (as their aunt) but most probably the kids were not told about the truth. However, one of them went on to have her own baby after the adoption. She managed to conceive, most likely due to less stress!. Also, I have the impression that adoption back home seems like a taboo.
I just remember one incident that happened when we were at Hilton Head. A young lady (probably in her 20s and she looks like a Korean) came to us when she saw C&C and asked us if they were adopted!!! I was sooooooo ANGRY at that point of time and of course WT too. WT immediately told her "NO! my wife gave birth to them!!!"...then suddenly I saw her calling her parents over. When I saw them, I wasn't angry with her anymore coz I know she is an adopted child herself (her parents are American)...I totally understand what she is going through and she may have the thought that many Asian babies in the States are adopted too, just like her. I believe it makes her feel much better knowing that she is not alone.
Okay, will I adopt??? I don't know..no reason for me to adopt at this point. I already have 2 beautiful girls and if we want another child, I believe we will want to have our own first rather than adoption unless my fertility takes a 360 degree turn!. Adoption can be really expensive...USD20,000-USD40,000 I think and is a very lengthy process. I believe that if we have lots of money (after putting aside the girls' college funds)then there is a possibility.
I am so delighted to see baby Tessa being so happy with her new family. Wonder what will happen to her if she is still living in the orphanage in China. They are still many babies out there waiting for someone to shower them with love...don't be surprised if I adopt a baby oneday!!!!
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